A very wise and youthful soul once shared with me a pearl of wisdom that sparked a surge of inner energy. This person confidently expressed to me:
“There are no mistakes in nature”
On the surface, there was much validity in these words. I mean, just look around you!!! The trees, the wind, the rivers, the sky and the rocks all expertly exist not because of man or mistakes, but because of experience. Even insects, reptiles and mammals have evolved due to our changing environment, none of which are ‘mistakes’.
Humans are nature. They are carefully and expertly created based on their PAST experiences. They may bare the cracks of the most heinous of conditions, the scars of physical conflict and the microscopic alterations of evolution.
It is for this reason that HUMANS are not a mistake. Not their feelings, actions, emotions, personalities or behaviors.
We as humans are perfect in our evolutionary imperfections.
We are not broken – not spiritually, not emotionally, not physically. We are exactly as we are meant to be whether needy, strong-willed, hardheaded, jealous, doormats, self-degrading, temperamental, removed, sensuous, small-framed, big butted, slouchy shouldered, oily skin, angry, perky, soft-bellied, helpful of strangers or whatever plethora of emotional, physical and personality given traits exist in our beings.
“Getting Over It”, “Moving On” , “You NEED to do ……” or “You/I Need Time To Evaluate”, or some semblance of these words, are phrases imperfectly created to hasten the evolution of a human – to change them. It is meant to FIX the BROKEN, and remember, WE ARE NOT broken.
We are allowed and encouraged to speak of these traits if done in kindness and compassion such as letting someone know their actions are painful. We are allowed to fight for these traits if we are ever attacked for being spiritual instead of a “Christian”, lacking trust in humans instead of trusting everyone or being a sugar addict instead of having a perfect diet.
What we ARE NOT allowed to do is to walk away or berate or humiliate or call out someone because they feel something that maybe someone else doesn’t see. At least not without harming someone else.
We are all given a certain specific set of skills while in this life. These skills enable us to be WISE in our statements and actions. The skill of understanding the body and its needs enables us to provide for our vessel and be well. The skill of understanding people enables us to intuitively see underlying negative/ill intent energies of others. The skill of understanding total wellness provides us with a goal of being of mind, body and spirit. These skills are OUR tools. Not everyone has the same skills we do.
We must TRUST the skills of the one who possesses them when we are ignorant to them.
What this means is when someone with the skill of effective coaching is offering helpful words, it is important for us to listen. When someone who has an in depth understanding of nutrition, chemicals and the body provides information, we need to listen. When a person of soul skill sees the auras of people, we must listen. When the carpenter says this plan is structurally unsound, we must open our ears!
I would never seek assistance from a pest control person, whose skill set is primarily eradicating rodents and destructive insects from our homes and businesses, on matters of relationships. I would never seek bricklaying advice from a nurse. I would never choose to have a McDonald’s cashier give me advice on heart surgery.
Why then, must we be so difficult when it comes to listening to what others have to say?
I am not broken and therefore, am not imperfect. I am exactly as nature has made me. I am exactly as I am intended to be. I am not needing a fix. I am not needing a repair. I am not needing betterment. I am exactly as I am meant to be today. This applies to all humans as well.
Those who can appreciate this will appreciate that it is not our job or position to repair other humans, to fix the earth, to change animals or to convert individuals.
A malicious hunter will shoot its target and then use its body for display in a trophy room, never respecting the conflict it has seen or the successes it has made….never understanding or respecting the animal as perfect in nature. The corporate giant will eradicate forests to erect mega-centers for THEIR own comfort and profit…..never seeing the migratory butterflies or birds who utilize the space on their journey. The rigid individual will stand unyielding to opening their thoughts and perspectives….never seeing the small successes and the potential in another.
Wellness requires an understanding of us as humans. Our quirky emotional hardheaded sides. We lovingly embrace these traits because they are EXACTLY WHAT nature has created. We don’t try to change them. We don’t try to fix them. We don’t lob them off or chop them down or decapitate their head’s for our trophy / success wall.
We treat them with kindness so they can evolve and become “smooth” over time.